“There is an enormous difference between what the majority of people call love and the real Love that is nothing else than a synonym for the only universal force, creator of all things in this world. This is why many religions affirm that God is Love, because they are one and the same, simply different names for the same miraculous energy flowing through all human beings, without any exception. There is this human tendency to feel attraction for another human and call that love. There is this human belief that conditions love according to what the mind wants. The heart is often times silenced by the ego that is only looking to keep the conscious mind inside its “comfort zone.” In this comfort zone, money, positions and other many labels, are the ones conditioning and limiting love. But real love cannot be limited, you see. Real love lives beyond all human mental illusion. It persists and subsists beyond death and eternity. We must attune to that real Love. And never settle for less.” ~Roxana Jones for HealThruWords®
The difference between the love of the mind and the love of the heart
I did not always believe in real Love because for many years of my life I did not even realize such Love existed. I grew up with a conditioned mind where my ego was in charge of selling me an illusory love that would give me all the things I desired. Through this socially imposed type of love, I learned how to achieve many things, if not everything. This mental love I used to practice, allowed me to fall in love (falling instead of rising,) get married, have a family, create a wealthy lifestyle where apparently nothing was missing, and so many other ‘things’ I could add to the list.
According to my mind, I was a successful person. But then, why was it that at age thirty and having “everything” I wished for, I felt so incomplete and unfulfilled?
My search continued for many years, before I could accept the only way I would find that unconditional Love I did not even know I was looking for would be by moving out of my comfort zone and beyond what my mind could offer me. I went a little bit deeper every day until I found my inner landscape. There, I learned how to experience reality through the feelings of the heart, not the emotions of the mind. For the first time I understood the reason why I had come to Earth: to love myself in such a way that all I could do from that Love was to feel unlimited compassion for all human beings, no matter their stories or even my stories related to theirs.
One of the questions I am often times asked is how to get to that heart and feel that Love I talk about. I believe that connecting with the heart is an empirical and almost indescribable process that can only be defined by the person who experiences it. Once you are ready for it, you begin searching with discipline and determination until it reveals to you. It always does.
What I am writing about is not something I discovered on my own, of course not. This is a truth that many extinct civilizations knew and tried to pass on. One of my favorite quotes that explains it so well comes from one of the oldest Upanishads:
“If someone says to you:
‘In the fortified city of the imperishable, our body, there is a lotus, and in this lotus a tiny space: what does it contain that one should desire to know it?’
You must reply:
‘As vast as this space without is the tiny space within your heart: heaven and earth are found in it, fire and air, sun and moon, lightning and the constellations, whatever belongs to you here below and all that doesn’t, all this is gathered in that tiny space within your heart.’”
~ Chandogya Upanishad 8.1.2-3
Within your heart, is where you can find true Love, the only force that can transform it all. A few days ago, I read an article explaining how love was found in the mind, not in the heart – the opposite to what I have been describing. “A recent study shows love is a complex emotion triggered by 12 specific areas of the brain — the network of love.” It is amazing to see how so many people ignore the importance of what is inside the human heart and insist on finding all the answers in the human brain. As stated previously, I agree with the fact that there is indeed a love of the mind but this does not mean that a deeper Love is not to be found in the heart.
So how to know which love you are putting into practice?
Here are a few ways to distinguish between the love of the mind and the love of the heart that you might find helpful:
1. The love of the mind wants to possess. The love of the heart wishes to liberate.
2. The love of the mind feeds on judgment and comparison. The love of the heart promotes healing and forgiveness.
3. The love of the mind is dramatic. The love of the heart is equanimous.
4. The love of the mind only understands in terms of the material world. The love of the heart is infinite and goes beyond this material world.
5. The love of the mind can be indifferent and even cruel. The love of the heart is always kind and compassionate.
6. The love of the mind wants you to stay small. The love of the heart wants you to expand and grow.
7. The love of the mind involves eros or sexual passion. The love of the heart invites you to learn about sacred sex and the awakening of your Kundalini.
8. The love of the mind can be unhealthy and associated with narcissism. The love of the heart is always healthy, unselfish and does not understand vanity.
9. The love of the mind can generate apathy. The love of the heart is always empathic.
Last but not least,
10. The love of the mind can love others but ignores the importance of self-love. The love of the heart loves Self and from that Self-love it allows you to love others in deeper ways you or them have never felt before.
My wish to you is that you discover the Love that allows your self-realization, one that permits you to go beyond the material world that so often seems so confusing and “unloving.”
Until next time and don’t forget to be love,
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